Mistress Says So

Before I start running on about how I've vetting my subs I feel like the subject of what makes a "good sub" should be breached first. There's really no such thing as a "good sub" it's like asking what makes you a good gay person. It's just who you are, you shouldn't put people in the box like this. And the little box fives subs too much pressure!  The submissive mainly is there to follow rules and guidance of the Domme (female Dom). After pre-agreed upon rules and guidelines have been stated in a contract. I love my contracts. It gives both parties everything out on the table. Including fetishes list and limits. Both are super important. Same as what both parties are into.  Because, after all, all that submissive wants is to let go and let someone else be in charge for them. No more worries. Just a happy space. So all in all there's no such thing as a "good submissive" those two words are just ridiculous amount of pressure someone d...

Once you get married, the world opens up to so many new fetishes. It's rather fascinating. I'm a sub to my husband. And a Domme to everyone else. I cannot, I refuse, to submit to anyone else. We decided to open up our relationship to non-monogamy several years back. And we had thirds and subs. But now we've decided to be able to open up and have our own secondary partners and subs. It's rather odd.  First if all, I'm pansexual. And second I'm genderfluid. Interesting combo, won't you say so? But since I'm married to a guy everyone just thinks I'm a cis female. Even my lgbt+ friends. Apparently once you marry straight you become so. Hell, I was treated so when we were even dating. And I really hate when people decide my attraction and sexuality for me. I grew up with that, I don't need it as an adult. And it's also very fascinating to see more men reach out to be a sub than women. Women are somehow more shy about this, in my experience.  There...

I'm a Mistress that haven't had her own sub in a couple of years and I feel rather rusty in some of my skills. So I went back to talking to subs once more during the time of plague. There are no in person things that can happen because, once again, plague. I decided to start this kind of blog to show, perhaps to myself than any other people, how it's going and have my own way of checking in with myself. This is going to be me talking to myself, perhaps. Or just voicing my opinions, likes, dislikes, and ideas. Or fully random shit. But here's my journey. During plague.