You know what's weird?

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Once you get married, the world opens up to so many new fetishes. It's rather fascinating.

I'm a sub to my husband. And a Domme to everyone else. I cannot, I refuse, to submit to anyone else. We decided to open up our relationship to non-monogamy several years back. And we had thirds and subs.

But now we've decided to be able to open up and have our own secondary partners and subs.

It's rather odd. 

First if all, I'm pansexual. And second I'm genderfluid. Interesting combo, won't you say so? But since I'm married to a guy everyone just thinks I'm a cis female. Even my lgbt+ friends. Apparently once you marry straight you become so. Hell, I was treated so when we were even dating. And I really hate when people decide my attraction and sexuality for me. I grew up with that, I don't need it as an adult.

And it's also very fascinating to see more men reach out to be a sub than women. Women are somehow more shy about this, in my experience. 

There are also 3 main things I don't play with: Shit, fire, and belts. Not gonna happen no matter how hard you try. My all-time hard limits. You can't pay me enough for me to play with those.

But I've decided to post on a prominent kink site's group that I'm looking for a sub. And I've also put it in my profile as well.

"For a sub I'm looking for someone I click with and have similar fetishes and can hold a conversation and someone that's fun to hang with. I expect honesty. I don't play with shit or belts or fire. Those are my top 3 not gonna happen things. What I'm NOT looking for: I don't like when subs try to top from the bottom. Having a discussion with what they want? Not a problem. Manipulating? No. What would ruin a sub for me instantly: Anger and violence coming from sub for no reason what so ever. Or jokes that make fun of specific groups of people. Not funny and rude and offensive. What I get off of: Watching my sub enjoy themselves and everyone getting pleasure. Orgasm is not my end goal. I'm pansexual and genderfluid, keep that in mind." 

And I've got a lot of responses of different kinds of subs. Which I'm vetting thoughrally. How? That will be my next post.

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