"There are no safe words"

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Run.

Run from those words like the plague. That's not a D/s relationship that's abuser. 

There are ALWAYS safe words. Just in case shit hits the fan and something goes wrong. 

Recently someone I know was treated badly and pushed beyond STOP. And the Domme said the words above as a reply for trying to stop. That's when the line is drawn and broken. Now it becomes abuse and not safe, sane, consentual play. 


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