The double standard

You gotta love the double standard when it comes to new submissive vs new Dominant. 

New sub and all the Doms go "Shiny!" New Dom and all the subs go "Stranger danger!" However, it's understandable. A lot relies on a Dom. And how much they will accidentally make a mistraks that could deeply injure a sub. While subs run on a "Shiny" frenzy and wanna try everything at once because it's so great and new and omg! Chill.

To which I say mentorship should still be a thing. I strongly urge people to do that because having a good guide in the dark is very good in this lifestyle. Someone who teaches you what not to do or to do and why or where not or what can go wrong and why. It's much better than making that huge mistake by yourself with a sub and both don't know what went wrong, how, or why.

Recently I watched a sub be "Shiny" all over and had a Domme take them with, let's say less than good, intentions in mind. Too many red flags. Luckily, I was able to help them get out of that situation. 

There should be an online free class that's easy to find on how to spot red flags. Because that was bad. I'm thinking on making a small tutorial because that was heartbreaking. And how many stories I've heard from my submissive friends. 

Why abuse a gift?! Seriously.