"No"

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Here's where I'm going to harp on people. 

Respect the "no" word. It's a complete sentence. 

Yes, I've stated this before but here's how it differs: 

If I, a Domme, when a submissive asks if they can be mine politely decline and say no, respect it. If I already declined it doesn't mean try harder. That's the opposite of making me want to have you as a submissive. If you can't listen to a simple no when asking to be mine how can I trust you'll listen to something else I say or how can I trust you to safe word?

Yes, it's a great ego boost and privilege when someone asks to be your Domme but please be ready to take rejection as well. 


For example, my profile on Fet states that I'm looking for friends only. Yest I still receive applicants. I don't mind politely rejecting them and explaining to them that I'm simply looking for more like minded friendships in the community. And if that's okay with them perfect. 

What's not okay is if they try harder to win you over and at a later date ask you to be their Domme again and when the answer stays the same get angry. Or disappear because you didn't give them what they wanted.

That definitely doesn't make one feel used.

Dommes and Doms have feelings too. Just a simple reminder. 

Moral of the story: 

Be a nice person. Don't be "that guy" and you're set.

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