Mistress Says So

Kneeling positions: Those things to get subs in the mood before and after scene or get punished in. Here's the thing with me when it comes to subs and kneeling positions: I want them to feel submissive yet comfortable or have something they can do.  Remember: Each submissive is different and their bodies have different limitations. I usually have my sub try a different array of positions to see how comfortable they can be in it for 2 min max. You can usually feel comfort/discomfort at that time to solidify how you feel about something. Currently I have a male sub, and after him trying a few positions, here are the basic 3: And yes, my subs get a mat from me depending on the needs and physical capabilities and desires of both parties. Gomukhasana lose is the most comfortable for my sub, therefore that's the one to use to get in and out of the right mindspace.  Humble position is for thing like, "I've fucked up, I know I have, I'm sorry" and the conv...

This question. There's actually an answer to this. Abusive relationships portrayed in the media (you know what movie series I'm talking about) are definitely not an example of what makes a good Dom. 1. We communicate. Before anything is done you need to talk it out first. It's the reason I love contracts. Just for a scene or signed up assub, contract that shit so that everything lies in the open. If you don't want to talk about something, it means that's something you definitely must talk about.  Remember: We're responsible for our subs. 2. A Dom doesn't act out in anger. Let's not be rash and do something you would regret later. That harms the dynamic of the relationship, the sub phically and emotionally, and can break that very important trust you built and make it into an abusive relationship. We're not there to abuse. We're there to indulge in a healthy, sane, and consensual play. We are NOT there to abuse our lovelies. If you are angry, tak...